Sometimes I am astonished to realize that I have spent seven years of my life dedicated to breastfeeding (between my two children) and that once, during the first days of being a mother for the first time, I came to think that I did not have enough milk for my baby.

Breastfeeding was not so easy at first, as it is perhaps for many moms. Everything was new, sometimes we do not know what to expect and above all, what to measure. Beyond factors such as the weight of the baby and wet and dirty diapers, breastfeeding is not quantifiable as it is in formula milk. We do not know with certainty if baby took an ounce, two or five. We do not know if in each shot baby consumes the same amount, because as well as every second of our life, each shot is different and the needs of the baby as well.

However, if the baby cries, We will think like, “Are you hungry again ?, but if you just eat!” And of course that you will hear mostly from people around. You can never be sure about whether the baby was satisfied or not. Sometimes you can. If you are worried on the quantity of the breast milk, and whether the baby getting enough or not, you can measure the amount of milk by storing it in a breast milk storage container. You can use a breast pump to get the milk to the container.

Some mothers will say: “it’s true, I did not have milk!” Or “I could not breastfeed even if I wanted to because nothing came out.” Everything is valid, every mom has her deep, conscious and unconscious reasons to breastfeed or not to breastfeed, but I am here to reflect more deeply on the subject without pointing at anyone, without judging, only for us to use feminine power and we can connect in a fundamental subject.

Actually, all moms have milk to feed their babies. But beyond the biological, breastfeeding is also governed by the mind and the heart. Far from being something only physical, breastfeeding is a subtle process, linked to intuition, to the connection with oneself and above all to the emotional support that is available during the process.

In my days of stress with breastfeeding, I remember that what I was looking for silence and loneliness. I wanted to put out the noise around me so I could be connected to the depths of my sensations, because after all, breastfeeding should be happy and pleasant. When I did that, I no longer had any doubts or fears and had a lot of milk. This experience helped me in my second motherhood everything flowed very well from the first minute I breast-fed my baby.

If a mother listens: “you do not have enough milk” she can intensely internalize this sentence and stop producing it. It can also happen that the milk does not occur as expected due to extreme stress (abandonment of the couple, death of someone close, difficult economic situation, etc). Therefore, I think there are women who do not have milk, but it is because they lack the necessary emotional support to be calm, time and trust in themselves to connect with their needs and those of their baby, in privacy of the most intimate relationship between mom and baby.

We need more support from the whole society so that we moms can be calm to do the most important thing, without being worried about cleaning the house, the reincorporation to work, time. I still think that one day it will be possible. It is in some countries … why not at all?